Stithau and Equanimity

Two core principles of yoga are Abhyasa: practice with persistent effort, and Vairagya: non-attachment or letting go.  When these two principles are combined, we are led to the stable, peaceful, and tranquil state known as Stithau.  On the mat, this can be experienced when we combine muscular energy and precise alignment with tranquil and smooth breath, and a soft gaze.  In meditation, the effort it takes to remain focused is combined with a letting-go of thought.  However readily available these principles are when we have set aside time for practice, the true test of our stability happens in daily life.  What happens when the stability of our tranquil, peaceful state is put to the test? 
     
After having the mournful task of putting down our beloved 13-year-old retriever last week, I have been examining the process of letting-go.  After the initial sadness and grief, I found that I was especially irritable, impatient, and distracted.  Rather than pushing these feelings away, I have learned through years of consistent practice (abhyasa) to allow myself to be present with what I am experiencing, however uncomfortable I may feel.  Though I am far from mastering this process, I am so grateful for the teachings of yoga. 
     
The work of letting-go of attachment can be especially difficult when we need to say goodbye to loved ones.  We may have the overarching perspective that supports a state of equanimity or stithau, but we still feel the pangs of loss, as natural human emotions unfold.  I have found these words from Joan Halifax Roshi to be particularly helpful: “What kind of mind and heart can stay strong and open and not fall prey to conditioned reactions?  Can we grieve fully and not cling to our grief?  Equanimity is the capacity to be in touch with suffering and at the same time not be swept away by it.  It is the strong back that supports the soft front of compassion.  These interdepending qualities are the foundation for effective work with suffering.  Equanimity allows us that radiant calm, peace, and trust that receive the world and at the same time make it possible for us to let go of the world.”
May all beings find balance, equanimity, and peace.

Namaste,
Abby